Dedeker Winston | Work With Me

ATTN 6/25/24
All of my slots for ongoing relationship coaching are currently full. I only have availability for one-off sessions and Somatic Experiencing sessions at this time. Please use the booking widget below to check my open slots.

One-on-one support can set you on the right track to creating a healthy, happy, sexy, and exciting love life whether you are single, married, new to non-monogamy, a practiced polyamorist, recovering from a breakup or divorce, or anywhere in-between. I am the person who keeps you accountable, answers questions you may have about best relationship practices, encourages you to stick to your goals and follow through, and I can be a listening ear when frustration, failure, and conflict arise.

I can help with a multitude of topics, including:

Finding like-minded partners to date
Bringing up non-monogamy to your partner
Managing multiple relationships and multiple partner's needs for emotional support, time, and attention
Exploring group sex, threesomes, and other sexual adventures
Developing healthy and conscious monogamous relationships
Coming out to family and friends
Healing from breakup, divorce, infidelity, or other relationship transitions
Opening up closed relationships or closing previously open relationships
Discovering what type of relationships truly fulfill you
Processing trauma and identifying where PTSD may be obstructing access to a life of ease and empowerment

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Dedeker is both pragmatic and sincere in her coaching services. She is a great listener and will make you feel heard, and you'll walk away afterwards with things to think about and a solid game plan. I went into her coaching confused and unsure of myself, and I left feeling empowered in my decisions and with the knowledge that nobody is ever alone in their struggles.

Saige O.

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Dedeker has an instinctual way of making you feel important by asking intelligent and relevant questions that open your mind to greater possibilities and set you on the path to reaching your mental health and/or relationship goals. Her empathy and openness for clients of color, clients from the LGBTQ+ community, and clients with nontraditional relationship styles made us a perfect fit.

N.K.

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My Approach

Outside of my years of personal experience in non-monogamous relationships, I am a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP). I also bring my training and background in Gottman Method Couples therapy, mindfulness meditation, and my coaching credentials certified by the non-profit International Coach Federation. You can see the full list of my education and credentials on the About page.

I approach each session with the intention of empowering you with the knowledge and skills necessary to understand your situation, to uncover the actionable steps you can take to reach a solution and to craft the relationships that you want to have. I strive to create a supportive space where your thoughts and feelings can be heard, and where you can learn more about yourself through self-inquiry, mindfulness, and custom-tailored exercises.

I work with clients from all walks of life, but I most frequently work with people who are interested, involved in, or identify with:

polyamory (hierarchal, non-hierarchal, solo polyamory and more)
open relationships and open marriages
developing conscious monogamous relationships
the LGBTQIA community
the ace spectrum (asexual, demisexual, greysexual, aromantic, demiromantic, etc.)
BDSM and kink
relationship anarchy
sex workers
trauma survivors and people living with PTSD
people of any gender identity, sexual orientation, or relationship format

Rates

Individual Session - 50 Minutes
Sliding Scale 130 - 230
Supporter Rate: 230
Regular Rate: 180
Reduced Rate: 130

Couple Session - 75 Minutes
Sliding Scale 230 - 330
Supporter Rate: 330
Regular Rate: 280
Reduced Rate: 230

3 Person Session - 90 Minutes
Sliding Scale 330 - 430
Supporter Rate: 430
Regular Rate: 380
Reduced Rate: 330

Not ready for coaching?

If you don't currently have the time or funds for coaching, no worries! I highly recommend jumping into my new self-paced course, Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy. Here you'll find all of the evidence-based relationship and non-monogamy fundamentals that are foundational to my practice, all for less than the lowest end of my sliding scale rates.

If you're interested in working with me as a couple, this course contains much of the information that you would be getting in the first 1-3 sessions of working with me, which means our work together in the future could go even faster. While this isn't a replacement for one-on-one work, it can help to inspire some new thoughts and ideas for supporting your relationship.

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I have been in some form of traditional therapy on and off for the last 25 years, and I made the most progress on my relationships and personal challenges with Dedeker's help. I could not recommend her coaching enough.

Nick B.

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I find that Dedeker's coaching was more helpful to me than other types of counselling because it allowed me to focus specifically on my relationships with someone who understands both traditional and non-traditional relationship models.

Jessica H.

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Let's get started

Please read the sliding scale guidelines and fill out my booking form below. If my schedule indicates that there are no available sessions, that means that all of my slots are full for the next two weeks. If there are open slots in my calendar, they will become available on a 14-day rolling basis, so please check back periodically for slots to open up. In the meantime, I highly recommend setting yourself up for success with research and evidence-based practices in my self-paced course, Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy.

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