DEDEKER WINSTON
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UPDATE 1/17/23
My practice is currently full, and I will not be accepting new clients for the next few months. If you are in need of resources, I highly recommend jumping into my new self-paced course, Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy. Here you'll find all of the evidence-based relationship and non-monogamy fundamentals that are foundational to my practice, all for less than the lowest end of my sliding scale rates.

If you're interested in working with me as a couple, this course contains much of the information that you would be getting in the first 1-3 sessions of working with me, which means our work together in the future could go even faster. While this isn't a replacement for one-on-one work, it can help to inspire some new thoughts and ideas for supporting your relationship. 


One-on-one coaching can set you on the right track to creating a healthy, happy, sexy, and exciting love life whether you are single, married, new to non-monogamy, a practiced polyamorist, recovering from a breakup or divorce, or anywhere in-between.  As your coach, I am the person who keeps you accountable, answers questions you may have about non-monogamy, encourages you to stick to your goals and follow through, and I can be a listening ear when frustration, failure, and conflict arise.  
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I can help with a multitude of topics, including:
  • Finding like-minded partners to date 
  • Bringing up non-monogamy to your partner
  • Managing multiple relationships and multiple partner's needs for emotional support, time, and attention 
  • Exploring group sex, threesomes, and other sexual adventures
  • Developing healthy and conscious monogamous relationships 
  • Coming out to family and friends​
  • Healing from breakup, divorce, infidelity, or other relationship transitions 
  • Opening up closed relationships or closing previously open relationships
  • Discovering what type of relationships truly fulfill you
  • And much more.
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Dedeker is both pragmatic and sincere in her coaching services. She is a great listener and will make you feel heard, and you'll walk away afterwards with things to think about and a solid game plan. I went into her coaching confused and unsure of myself, and I left feeling empowered in my decisions and with the knowledge that nobody is ever alone in their struggles. 

Nathan O.

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Dedeker has an instinctual way of making you feel important by asking intelligent and relevant questions that open your mind to greater possibilities and set you on the path to reaching your mental health and/or relationship goals. Her empathy and openness for clients of color, clients from the LGBTQ+ community, and clients with nontraditional relationship styles made us a perfect fit. 

N.K.

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My Approach


​Outside of my years of personal experience in non-monogamous relationships, I bring my training and background in Gottman Method Couples therapy, Somatic Experiencing® techniques, mindfulness meditation, and my coaching credentials certified by the non-profit International Coach Federation. You can see the full list of my education and credentials on the About page.

​I approach each session with the intention of
empowering you with the knowledge and skills necessary to understand your situation, to uncover the actionable steps you can take to reach a solution and to craft the relationships that you want to have. I strive to create a supportive space where your thoughts and feelings can be heard, and where you can learn more about yourself through self-inquiry, mindfulness, and custom-tailored exercises.
I work with clients from all walks of life, but I most frequently work with people who are interested, involved in, or identify with:
  • polyamory (hierarchal, non-hierarchal, solo polyamory and more)
  • open relationships and open marriages
  • developing conscious monogamous relationships​
  • the LGBTQIA community
  • the ace spectrum (asexual, demisexual, greysexual, aromantic, demiromantic, etc.)
  • BDSM and kink
  • relationship anarchy
  • sex workers 
  • trauma survivors and people living with PTSD
  • people of any gender identity, sexual orientation, or relationship format

What to Expect

Coaching may include:
  • Ongoing audio or video sessions​
  • Personalized recommendations for information and resources
  • For couples: a HIPAA-compliant research-backed clinical relationship assessment
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While most of my clients work with me on a weekly or bi-weekly basis, I do not require a minimum number or particular frequency of sessions. I have worked with clients across the U.S., UK, France, Germany, Costa Rica, Hong Kong, Japan, and many more. As long as we can find a time that fits our time zones, we can work together. 

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 I find that Dedeker's coaching was more helpful to me than other types of counselling because it allowed me to focus specifically on my relationships with someone who understands both traditional and non-traditional relationship models.

Jessica H.

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I have been in some form of traditional therapy on and off for the last 25 years, and I made the most progress on my relationships and personal challenges with Dedeker's help. I could not recommend her coaching enough.

Nick B.

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Rates

Individual Session - 50 Minutes
Sliding Scale 130 - 230
Couple Session - 75 Minutes
Sliding Scale 230 - 330
3 Person Session - 90 Minutes
Sliding Scale 330 - 430
My mid-to-high tier rates enable me to offer reduced rates to those who need it. If you are unsure which rate would be appropriate for you, you can check out the guidelines below when booking -- this rate is not locked in, and can change at any time as your financial situation fluctuates. If there is a different rate not listed here within the sliding scale range that would work best for you, please contact me.​

Not ready for coaching?

If you don't currently have the time or funds for coaching, no worries! I highly recommend jumping into my new self-paced course, Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy. Here you'll find all of the evidence-based relationship and non-monogamy fundamentals that are foundational to my practice, all for less than the lowest end of my sliding scale rates.

If you're interested in working with me as a couple, this course contains much of the information that you would be getting in the first 1-3 sessions of working with me, which means our work together in the future could go even faster. While this isn't a replacement for one-on-one work, it can help to inspire some new thoughts and ideas for supporting your relationship. 
Enroll Now

Let's get started

Please read the sliding scale guidelines and fill out my booking form below. If my schedule indicates that there are no available sessions, that means that all of my slots are full for the next two weeks. If there are open slots in my calendar, they will become available on a 14-day rolling basis, so please check back periodically for slots to open up. In the meantime, I highly recommend setting yourself up for success with research and evidence-based practices in my self-paced course, Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy.
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