Multiamory: Essential tools for modern relationshipsRelationships aren't "one-size-fits-all" so why should relationship advice be? Multiamory offers practical, research-based communication tools for the full spectrum of modern relationships.
When Multiamory authors Dedeker Winston, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Jase Lindgren started producing their advice show about polyamory and other non-traditional relationships, they received dozens of questions from listeners about all sorts of relationship quandaries and communication stalemates. They quickly found out that existing relationship tools weren't up to the task, and that conventional wisdom is sorely lacking for modern relationships. Many of the primary resources for relationship advice are frustratingly religious, unapproachable and academic, or alienating to anyone who falls outside the mainstream of heterosexual monogamy. Available wherever books are sold. |
This interactive book is essential for all folks who want to improve their connections and relationships of any kind. With their relatable anecdotes and research-informed tools, the Multiamory team has created a necessary read where there is something for everyone who wants to enhance their human experience. -- Nicoletta Heidegger, Sexologist and Host of the Sluts and Scholars podcast
Leaders in the field of diverse relationship styles for nearly a decade, the folks from the Multiamory podcast are at it again with their new book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships. This book is useful not only for people interested in the wide and wild world of consensual non monogamies, but anyone who wants to have a relationship founded in skills like conflict resolution, positive communication styles, and compassion. The tools that Lindgren, Matlack, and Winston offer in their new book mirror some of the ideas in their fabulous podcast, and go beyond it with more concrete ideas about how to foster and manage healthy, happy relationships of any kind. -- Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door and Children in Polyamorous Families
One thing I really love about Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships is the honesty from all of the authors about their experiences with different challenges they've had. I often say in my column and podcast that people have rose tinted glasses when it comes to polyamory. If more people read books like Multiamory when they're starting out or struggling, more people would be open to having real conversations about the ups and downs. With practical exercises, this isn't just another book about how great non-monogamy is but how to really improve the skills that help make any relationship stronger. -- Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy
Leaders in the field of diverse relationship styles for nearly a decade, the folks from the Multiamory podcast are at it again with their new book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships. This book is useful not only for people interested in the wide and wild world of consensual non monogamies, but anyone who wants to have a relationship founded in skills like conflict resolution, positive communication styles, and compassion. The tools that Lindgren, Matlack, and Winston offer in their new book mirror some of the ideas in their fabulous podcast, and go beyond it with more concrete ideas about how to foster and manage healthy, happy relationships of any kind. -- Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door and Children in Polyamorous Families
One thing I really love about Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships is the honesty from all of the authors about their experiences with different challenges they've had. I often say in my column and podcast that people have rose tinted glasses when it comes to polyamory. If more people read books like Multiamory when they're starting out or struggling, more people would be open to having real conversations about the ups and downs. With practical exercises, this isn't just another book about how great non-monogamy is but how to really improve the skills that help make any relationship stronger. -- Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy
the smart girl's guide to polyamoryNo one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you'll find on the magazine rack. This practical guidebook will help women break free of the mold of traditional monogamy, without the constraints of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and competition. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory incorporates interviews and real-world advice from women of all ages in nontraditional relationships, as well as exercises for building self-awareness, confidence in communication, and strategies for managing and eliminating jealousy. If you're curious about exploring group sex, opening up your current monogamous relationship, or ready to “come out” as polyamorous, this book covers it all! Available wherever books are sold. |
“‘Smart’ is definitely the right word for this thoughtful, well-researched, and practical guide to the female side of polyamory.” —Janet W. Hardy, coauthor, The Ethical Slut
"More than just a 'glimpse into a world outside the status quo,' Dedeker Winston’s new book The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory guides readers on a sassy romp through introducing and defining polyamory, to finding out what others have said about it, and ending up outside the classroom, the closet, and the norm. Witty and substantial at the same time, this is the perfect book for anyone seeking an informative and entertaining 'alternative education on love.'" —Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door, Stories from the Polycule, and When Someone you Love is Polyamorous
"Behind the modern polyamory movement is a deeper concept: relationship choice. Dedeker Winston explains, with wit and insight, how you can shed society's off-the-shelf, one-size-fits-all relationship model and successfully design your own. You and your partner, or partners, can build your intimate lives together in new ways that work best for all of you— ethically, honestly, and with mutual care and understanding. . . .
"Women are leading this movement, and Winston is one of the smartest. As she tells from experience, it won't be easy. Designer relationships require extraordinary communication, self-insight, and good hearts all around. And a fearless embrace of agency and autonomy, in both yourself and others. The poly community's collective wisdom—hard-earned through sometimes bitter experience -- will be a huge aid in avoiding known pitfalls and not re-inventing wheels. Whether you end up choosing 'conscious monogamy' or one of the many types of ethical nonmonogamy, this book will point you right." —Alan MacRobert, Polyamory in the News
“Written with women in mind, Winston’s book is a colorfully written manual for anyone who’s curious about what polyamory does and doesn’t mean, or who’s realizing that traditional relationships may not be for them." ―Inverse
"More than just a 'glimpse into a world outside the status quo,' Dedeker Winston’s new book The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory guides readers on a sassy romp through introducing and defining polyamory, to finding out what others have said about it, and ending up outside the classroom, the closet, and the norm. Witty and substantial at the same time, this is the perfect book for anyone seeking an informative and entertaining 'alternative education on love.'" —Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door, Stories from the Polycule, and When Someone you Love is Polyamorous
"Behind the modern polyamory movement is a deeper concept: relationship choice. Dedeker Winston explains, with wit and insight, how you can shed society's off-the-shelf, one-size-fits-all relationship model and successfully design your own. You and your partner, or partners, can build your intimate lives together in new ways that work best for all of you— ethically, honestly, and with mutual care and understanding. . . .
"Women are leading this movement, and Winston is one of the smartest. As she tells from experience, it won't be easy. Designer relationships require extraordinary communication, self-insight, and good hearts all around. And a fearless embrace of agency and autonomy, in both yourself and others. The poly community's collective wisdom—hard-earned through sometimes bitter experience -- will be a huge aid in avoiding known pitfalls and not re-inventing wheels. Whether you end up choosing 'conscious monogamy' or one of the many types of ethical nonmonogamy, this book will point you right." —Alan MacRobert, Polyamory in the News
“Written with women in mind, Winston’s book is a colorfully written manual for anyone who’s curious about what polyamory does and doesn’t mean, or who’s realizing that traditional relationships may not be for them." ―Inverse